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Why I’m Not Having a Pinterest 1st Birthday Party

When I first imagined what Teagan’s first birthday party would be like, I won’t lie, I imagined it pretty elaborate and picture perfect. I love a good party. I love hosting parties and gatherings. Our baby shower was pretty elaborate in terms of cost. I mean we had catered Chipotle for 50+ people for goodness sake.

When she was about 6 months old I remember saying to my mom, “I feel like I want a big party but she won’t even remember it and it seems like a waste of money”. My mom of course said that it was the first one and it had to be big. For a while there, I agreed and started Pinteresting the sh*t out of stuff because if I didn’t I assumed I would be judged and I’d be a failure. This was until about a month or so ago. I started looking at the costs of things and I realized how completely dumb a big, elaborate first birthday party is.

At this point in time, Teagan is completely happy and content with a piece of cheese and some tissue paper to play with so why should I spend hundreds and hundreds of dollars for a party she will never remember?

Below are the reasons I have decided not to have a Pinterest worthy party and keep it low key.

  1. She is turning ONE

ONE. I REPEAT. ONE. Do I think she will look back and be bitter that I didn’t hold it in a rented out, huge location? No, she won’t remember the strawberries I gave her for breakfast today so I think I’m good. Will I look back and regret not having a huge party? No. I just want to enjoy the fact that we have both survived her first year of life and celebrate the years to come.

  1. Money

Sure, if you have thousands of dollars to throw away every month, okay have a big party. But for us normal people it’s dumb. Take that money and put it in your kid’s college fund. I know that seems extreme but really we all know there is a lot better things to do with all that money than purchasing an excessive amount of decorations, custom cakes, birthday outfits and rental fees. Paying off a credit card bill is WAY more important than adding to that debt for a one day celebration, let’s keep that in perspective.

  1. It’s All About the Invites

As long as you invite good people, you will have a great time. I feel like 1st birthdays are really an adult party for the most part so invite family and friends that you truly enjoy spending time with and love your kid. Those people won’t give two sh*ts whether you excessively decorated and catered food. They will be just find with some cheeseburgers on the grill and a Wegman’s cake.

  1. I am Secure with Myself

Now, I know a lot of people may not agree with this one but its how I feel so it’s going on the list. We all live through our children and their party is by extension representative of ourselves. When I see a young child’s birthday party be so elaborate I immediately think that their parents are perfectionists and therefore insecure. What are you trying to prove? Your child sees none of this stuff so really it’s all for you. Feed that ego.

Now, don’t get me wrong, I totally get wanting to have a good party for your baby. I recently went to a 1st birthday party of my friend Liza’s son (Liza_Adele, go check out her YouTube) and that party was perfect. It was hosted at her in-laws house. She had decorations to go with the theme but not ridiculous amounts. She had a cute cake and they grilled some delicious food. It was simple and fun. Totally reminded me of my childhood and was everything I expected and loved about a 1st birthday party. So what I’m saying is just make sure you have good food, drinks and enough cake to go around because at the end of the day that’s really all people care about. One day when Teagan is old enough to understand and appreciate the value of a big birthday party, I will absolutely spend the money to give her those memories and I will take so much joy in watching her have the time of her life. But this year, it’s just a small party at our home with all of our favorite people.

 

 

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