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Your College Degree Wasn’t a Waste

Yesterday I posted a poll on Instagram asking all those stay at home moms out there if they had a bachelor’s degree. I was just curious but also because sometimes I have days when I feel like my degree is a complete waste. That’s typically on the day I pay my student loan bill haha!

I worked my butt off for 4 years to get that bachelor’s  degree just for it to sit in a frame in our basement collecting dust. Other days I feel like it gives me something more I can offer my daughter later. And it really got me thinking.

I graduated with a degree in Government & International Politics and a minor in Business. I have always been very proud of that. I felt like it gave me something really strong to always fall back on. It gave me the ability to significantly contribute to my family. It was that “thing” that meant I never had to rely on a man to support me. At least that was my thought process for many years.

One thing I always knew I wanted to teach Teagan was that she always needed to follow her heart and chase her dreams. I want Teagan to find her passion and chase it. If that means seeking a formal education, going into the military, or start her own business…whatever feeds her soul is what I want for her.

From my experience, I want her to see that she can chase her passion and then stop and pursue another passion if that is where life takes her. Being her mother and being Cary’s wife has given me so much more than my education and day job ever could. I feel fulfilled every single day. I sit here knowing that everything I did in life lead me to this. After all, I wouldn’t have this life without my education that led me to an amazing job that led me to meeting the guy I now call my husband.

I will never see my education as a waste just because I chose to stay home with her.

On the flipside, I am so grateful she also has Cary as a role model. He went straight into the Army after high school and deployed to Afghanistan 3 times in 4 years. He worked in the Intelligence field both in and out of the Army but in a weird series of events got interested in software development.

Over a year’s time, he taught himself to code and 2 years later is a senior software developer making double what I made when I left my job this year. No college degree, no certificates, no formal training; just  had a passion, a desire to learn and succeed.

Through him following his passion, he enabled me to follow mine. She has two people to look at from completely different backgrounds, yet she will see that following your heart and trusting the timing of your life will never let you down.

So for all of you stay at home mamas out there…just know that whether we got a bachelor’s degree, an associate’s degree or no degree…nothing is a waste. You are doing a great job and God has placed you in this season of life for a reason.  

    3 COMMENTS

  • Melissa November 15, 2017 Reply

    Word!!! I graduated high school early and went to cosmetology school, worked in the industry for a few years, but a few moves for my husbands career lead me to other ventures, which I enjoyed them all- now I’m in the thick of the hardest job ever! Raising kids! No regrets in “not using my education”.

  • Thivy Michelle November 15, 2017 Reply

    Such an inspirational read! A college degree is never a waste regardless if you pursue a job with your major or not. I’m sure your daughter will grow up to be proud of both you and your husband 🙂

    Sincerely,
    Thivy Michelle

  • Cecilia Lopez November 15, 2017 Reply

    I love this! Thank you for sharing !

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